Build your defense.
Here’s where you will learn the basic terms and techniques we use to build our defenses. You’ll also get great advice from other elite athletes who have been through disappointment, setbacks, and defeat just like you.
We are here to learn how to maximize failure.
Because, the reality of being alive is: we are ALL going to deal with failure at some point. No one wants to fall or go all out and miss. A loss, especially after months or years of training and effort can be crushing. Read more…
ASAP TRAINING OVERVIEW
We all want to recover from failure and disappointment quickly, but we can only do that if we’ve trained as hard mentally as we have physically. The purpose of ASAP Training is to build mental memory in the same way we build muscle memory.
It’s simple, yet it can be really challenging. But just like any workout, if you work these 4 steps every day, I guarantee you will get stronger.
STEP 1. ACKNOWLEDGE FAILURE
The first step to Maximize Failure is learning to acknowledge the feelings of disappointment in the moment and never shrugging it off as unimportant. We all experience some type of failure, daily. While these disappointments are often minor and completely overlooked, these small failures can teach us so much about the strength of our mental fortitude and resilience. Read more…
STEP 2. SPOT YOUR DEFENSIVE PERSONALITY
Once we learn to recognize disappointment in real time, we get the opportunity to analyze our reaction. Each of us have an arsenal of responses to disappointment: anger, humor, sadness, shutting down, lashing out. Noticing how you react is the first step in learning new, healthier ways to respond. This is the key to managing your mental game. Read more…
STEP 3. ACTIVATE DEFENSE
Everyone has natural reactions to challenges, but “natural” certainly does not mean the reaction can’t be changed. When we start to focus on desired outcomes after we encounter disappointment, we can begin to change over time, transforming our “natural” destructive inclinations into constructive solutions. Read more…
STEP 4. PRACTICE DAILY
In order to develop mental resilience to failure, we must take every opportunity to practice these skills. Read more…
REAL TALK: WHEN TO ASK FOR HELP
Beyond failing a test or being upset about a slump, sometimes what we are going through takes more than just a mental pivot or a change in perspective to get through.
Even when you try your best to shift your mental game, there are times that maybe the damage has been done and that damage makes it impossible to move.
When depression or extreme anxiety hit, it is okay to ask for more help. Read more…
DEFENSE PERSONALITY QUIZ
We all have a dominant defensive personality that we go to when failure or difficulty emerges. Find out what your personality is HERE.
ASAP DAILY JOURNAL TEMPLATE
In order to develop mental resilience to failure, we must take every opportunity to practice our skills. Use this daily journaling worksheet to help you get started. DOWNLOAD
We love talking to athletes about what kinds of failure they have experienced in their life and sport, and we’ll be sharing their stories here. [COMING SOON]
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